A 25 year old South Carolina stripper has been charged with misdemeanor assault after striking a 31 year old strip club patron in the face five or six times. It appears that both Nicole Passmore (stripper name not available) and Earnest Kadlick both violated well established strip club rules of etiquette. First of all, Kadlick had left money sitting on his table, which Passmore picked up as she started to dance for Kadlick. When Kadlick protested that he did not want her to dance for him, she straddled him and began to give him a lap dance. The correct strip club etiquette requires the stripper to ask, rather than assume, that a customer wants a dance. Secondly, the dancer should wait for the patron to give her the money for a lap dance. It is not like a bar where money left on the counter is assumed to be a tip; there are any number of strippers on the floor at once, and that money could be meant for someone else. Unlike bartenders or coffee shop baristas, strippers do not share their tips at the end of the night. If, however, the tip is left on the stage while the stripper is dancing, then it is clearly meant to be a tip for the stage show.
Passmore’s next breach of strip club etiquette was insulting a patron who declined a dance from her, when she mocked his receding hair line. The proper thing to do is move on to the next patron. Different patrons have different preferences. But Kadlick does not get off the hook either, as he too violated a rule of strip club etiquette by calling Passmore a “snaggle toothed bitch.” When confronted by a belligerent stripper, the proper thing to do is ignore her. She vry well may have a personality disorder or another mental illness, and insulting her is like throwing gasoline onto a fire. Kadlick found out the hard way, when his retort led to him being beaten up by a stripper in front of his friends.
Too bad a cameraman was not present to record this whole interaction. A man with a 1950s narrator voice could explain the do’s and don’ts of strip club etiquette by commenting upon Passmore and Kadlick’s interaction. If McDonalds’s employees have to watch training videos, so too should strippers.
Had this crime occurred in Pennsylvania, Passmore would likely be charged with simple assault, a second degree misdemeanor punishable by up to two years incarceration and a $5,000 fine. She would also be charged with the lesser included offenses of harassment and disorderly conduct.
Matt McClenahen is a criminal defense lawyer in State College, Pennsylvania, home of Penn State University. He has extensive experience in assault cases, and he has had enough strip club related cases over the years to be familiar with the strip club rules of etiquette. http://www.mattmlaw.com/Criminal-Defense-Overview/Assault-Defense.shtml